BEFORE THE POLICE - BACK IN THE DAY - OUR FOREMOTHERS WERE THE LAW WE FEARED

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BEFORE THE POLICE  -  BACK IN THE DAY  -  OUR FOREMOTHERS WERE THE LAW WE FEARED

I saw this post somewhere.  

Beating and chastising are two different things. When Blacks refer to the "law we feared", I think we are referring more to the respect we had for the Black female mothers and matriarchs than sparing the rod.

Back then, in Black culture we knew if you didn't disciplined your own child, that child could become a statistic.That's what these ladies represented.They not only raised their children, but they raised the extended family's and communities' children as well.  

It was not until we became so acculturated, and is now required by law not to spank our children, that's when we began to have discipline problems with our children. In those days,  children knew not only their parents would stop them from being mischievous, the neighbor's mother, or another relative, or "Sister (whoever)" who lives down the street would do so. 

I remember being mischievous once - my cousin and I dressing up in my Aunt's (her mother's) best clothes.  We got spanked by my Grandmother first when she saw us strolling down the street to her house dressed in big dresses, hats and gloves (not my Aunts old clothes, but her very best. Then my when Aunt arrived, she spanked us,  and when my mother found out, she came over and --- I got it again! I never went into anyone else's house and disrespected it again - not even today!

A client in one of my Personality Development classes said, when she was young, her brother had been harassed by a gang to join their gang. This gang, she said. was not even part of her neighborhood, they were spreading out from another neighborhood. One day when several gang members approached their house, their mother and grandmother went out and confronted the gang, and told them to stay out of their neighborhood. Back then, the women were feared. The gang members never returned! 

It's interesting to note that after these traditions were castrated by the system by taking the discipline control from these thy women,  jails became full of Black children.

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WHY DO SOME WOMEN PUBLIC FIGURES WEAR PANTS SUITS AND OTHERS WEAR DRESSES?

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Hillary Clinton

Carly Fiornia

  

WHY DO WOMEN PUBLIC FIGURES OFTEN WEAR PANTS SUITS WHILE OTHERS WEAR DRESSES?

This Question appeared on Facebook:

Why does Hillary always wear pants?

I'll Tell you why!

As most of my followers know I owned a modeling school and agency.  I created a class and seminar called "FASHIONALITY", which is part of a two-day seminar, or semester class curriculum.

I will not present the on-line seminar now, but will in an upcoming training blog.  I just wanted to quickly address the above question of why the variations in wardrobe styles of women public figures.  Some say it's to seem more powerful, some say it's for comfort, still others say it's because some have no fashion sense.

Wanda Dorn
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Taken from the 

"Fashionality" Wardrobe and Fashion seminar/class

Here's what "fashionality", "fashion styles",  or "fashion personalities" mean:

Have you gone shopping with friends, and all saw the same dress and loved it, but only one of you could carry off that style? That's where fashion styles and personalities come into play. I have seen a particular fashion in magazines, and no matter how I try to accessorize or work that look - I finally determine, it's just not me; it's just not my fashion style. 

We all have a fashion style. There are several of them, and we all fit into one of them. There are some women who can wear jeans and a mink to a high-fashion event, while other women would wear pastels, pearls, silk and flowers as their comfort style.  You can call it style, personality, or others trainers may choose other terms for it, but I coined the phrase "Fashionality"

When the feminist evolution first found a threshold, powerful women did tend to dress in a more man-tailored look - most likely in a pant suit, or a man-tailored/man-fabric business suit ... but now --- WE ARE FREE TO CHOOSE OUR OWN POWER-FASHION STATEMENT!

The two women in question discussed on Facebook:  Hillary Clinton is one fashion personality, more casual. Carly Fiorina's fashion personality is more conservative, but interestingly enough after you complete the classes, you will see these two figures have more fashionality in common than you think.

What do you think those similarities are?  

In the comment section of this post, tell me what you think, and stay tuned to a blog "Fashionality Seminar" coming soon.

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THE BATHROOM ATTENDANT AIRS ON TV IN THE SAN FRANCISCO BAY AREA 11/14/15 @ 2:00 pm KOFY TV - SO SET YOUR DVR's!

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THE BATHROOM ATTENDANT

The Comedy Short Film

The Bathroom Attendant is a multi-award-winning short film Written and Directed, I'm proud to say, by my son Deon H. Hayman, starring Shay Roundtree, Hrach Titizian, J. Michael Briggs, Anne Judson-Yager, Trinecia Moore-Pernell, James Babbin, and Matt Kohler.

The film will be aired locally in the San Francisco Bay Area on Saturday, November 14, 2015 @ 2:00 pm, on KOFY TV. 

So everyone in the Bay Area - set your DVD's!

TBA has aired around the nation recently receiving nothing but rave reviews!  So, record, sit back and enjoy.

My Heartfelt Message to: BLACK LIVES MATTER --- Learn to know Who - What - Where - When - And How To Pick Your Fights!

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L.A. Clergy Demand Apology From Black Lives Matter - Los Angeles Sentinel

MY HEARTFELT MESSAGE 

TO BLACK LIVES MATTER

LEARN TO KNOW

 WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN, AND HOW 

TO PICK YOUR FIGHTS

I agree with the Clergy demanding an apology from Black Lives Matter disrupting speeches of people who came to say that they want to help.  Hear them out first ...

Go disrupt the Republican candidates, the Congress, the Senate and the police department's diversity meetings, etc. That's where your fights are.  

Unfortunately, often newly found recognition leads to excitement in being noticed. There's a time to talk and a time to demonstrate. Disrupting meetings is not the time to demonstrate. It's the time to, as said in Malcolm X movie, "look", "listen", "hear", "learn" and "understand", what the speaker has to say.  Also from the Malcolm X film:  "be careful of 'dem camras".  Even Malcolm himself fell prey to his notoreity and "dem camras".

As many young people would say, "put the older civil rights leaders out".  But young leaders could look, listen, hear, learn and most importantly understand what your role is from the older civil rights leaders who strategically and successfully picked their fights.  

From reading the article in the LASentinel, you didn't know what to do with the fact that Garcetti (and Hillary Clinton) has a right to speak to other groups without disruption and without your permission. Your group does not speak for everyone. 

How would you like it if others disrupted your events for their own agenda, or because they weren't consulted first. This is especially true about a meeting where the group is asking the persons in power and/or going to be in power where they stand.  If they didn't stand in the right place before, are they going to change their stance? You don't know because you didn't  stop, look, listen, hear and understand nor ask where that speaker will be coming from in the future. If they aren't going to come from where you believe they should in the future, then offer your demands in their discussion - don't try to take it over.

More often you get more by not being seen, but by strategizing a way to be heard without confrontation. 

Confrontation only leads to Blacks against Blacks, and that is a position you should not be creating. You should be creating dialog and peace among the community; resorting to marches and protests only when all our voices (not just yours) have not been heard, and after we all find that there is no other recourse but to stage more drastic actions. 

Believe it or not the people who came to hear the speakers should be respected too. 

Those guests, churches, groups and organizations have a right to invite people they feel they want to hear from so they can answer the questions their group or organization members want. If you have problems with a church group or organization inviting someone to speak, take it up with them. Even then, they don't have to answer to any other group as to whom they want to hear speak.

Believe me, there will be many such events as we continue the fight, and if you disrupt each one of them, people will begin to not take you seriously.

BLACK LIVES MATTER group, this is a heartfelt message because I support the work you're doing, but, please learn to  ---  know who, what, where, when, and how to pick your fights for the purpose of results and not for posturing‬‪...

... And continue doing good works!  

By the way, Mr. Moriah is a wonderful church!