Thursday, December 29, 2022
|Debutante Ania Ray with Proud Parents Carl and Brenda Ray|
DEBUTANTE BALLS AND COTILLIONS
This Debutante Ball or Cotillion is beautifully illustrated under the umbrella of my surrogate sister and late brother-in-love's daughter Ania's Ray's Debutante Cotillion BallDEBUTANTE BALL ETIQUETTE
AND THE AFRICAN AMERICAN DEBUTANTE COTILLION "What is a Debutante Ball" some might say "What is a Cotillion"
A cotillion debutante ball, sometimes called a
"coming-out" party where she makes her first appearance in fashionable society. It is a special event and the young ladies are "formally introduced into society"; usually presented by societal organizations and group in the spring or summer. They are normally held during their junior or senior year of high school.
A debutante ball or cotillion, in many traditions, most people believed them to be for the wealthy and socially influential families, but the cotillions or "deb" balls today is a wonderful way for young women to gain some of the very required manners and etiquette she will need to become an elite accomplished professional later in life. Some society groups present cotillion deb balls for young men as well as well as the young ladies.
Debutantes are usually presented into society lavishly resembling a ballroom dance where elegant finger food or formal dinner is served in a manner that allows them to can mix and mingle with family and friends.
HOW TO BECOME A DEBUTANTE
WHAT DO DEBUTANTES DO
Traditionally, the girl asks the boy to the ball. Dinner, speeches, and ballroom dancing are almost always features of the evening. So be selective in the date you pick, because your date represents you.
Cotillion debutante balls may require more before-the-ball instructions surrounding social etiquette and appropriate morals.
Cotillion deb Balls sort of take on the traits of high school proms since they are associated with students or a school function. So students usually go with formal dates or with an informal group of friends.
It is my recommendation that parents introduce your Deb to another formality, and that is; spend lots of money -- order a limousine
for this and many other occasion as appropriate!
At least one limo trip is a requirement to complete my Etiquette and Protocol Training class. It will be beneficial later for dating and business, professional associations and networking. I teach my young women the model's way on how to enter and exit limos; traveling in a limo manners; and the proper etiquette to graciously handle refreshments in the limo. When I work with deb balls, I ask the presenters to make a limo ride be part of the requirements. I also ask that one of the activities surrounding the ball would be to incorporate a brief lesson on how to be a good conversationalist, because parents, relatives and friends who come to the ball will, parents will be watching and bragging.
Ballroom dancing is often a part of the ball,
traditionally but not considered a mandatory activity, but practice the art.
WHAT DO DEBUTANTES WEAR
The dress code is strictly
a floor-length pure white ball gown accompanied with long white gloves. Pearls are recommended. Since there are so many etiquette developmental activities before and surrounding the event; for those additional occasions, be prepared to wear the best casual, upscale casual, and/or what you might wear to church. One activity I find beneficial is the Mother-Daughter events, building that relationship.
The night of the event: Follow the directives of your presenters, but be as formal as you can be! I could list here what formal gowns I would recommend, but each presenter group has a theme, so listen carefully, follow their instructions and select only a gown that you love and you feel comfortable in. There are stores that specialize in Prom or Ball gowns. I advise that you don't select or wear what you don't feel comfortable in at first try-on. Remember, if you don't really like what you select to wear, you are not going to be comfortable and may let that cloud your ability to have a ball -- "great" experience!
The dress code for the young men escorts is the gentlemen should rent and wear a long-tail black tuxedo, white shirt, white bow tie, white gloves, with white waist-coat. It has been known that the parents of the deb sometimes pays for the tux rental.
WHAT IS A CURTSY - HOW TO CURTSY
A curtsy is a "courtesy" gesture to show respect and gratitude; normally to someone of a higher social rank, age or status. That's why most think balls are for the affluent. The curtsy gesture is the ultimate mark of respect. There are several styles of elegant curtsies. The "court curtsy" is what I will demonstrate here. It is a deep-head-down but elaborate pose. stand flat-footed with your best posture, then lift your right (or left) foot and place the right (or left) foot (whichever foot you like) behind the heel of the other foot. Bend your knees - The longer it takes you to go down - and the deeper you go down - and the longer you stay down shows more respect.!
Ania is displaying her beautiful "Court" Curtsy"
Here is a "Collective" Curtsy
I RECOMMEND EVERY YOUNG WOMAN BECOME
A COTILLION DEBUTANTE - SO ELEGANT
|A collage of various cotillion balls - see the elegance!|
Saturday, December 10, 2022
ON DECEMBER 2012
I wrote this in support of SOCIAL SECURITY
(Facebook - December 2012)
"I want to hear that all politicians, especially when they retire, and the rich, all give back the social security they have drawn down, and the social security they parents, aunts, uncles, and other friends and relatives. Give it back and tell the government "I don't want social security and neither do my parents or relatives - because it's welfare!
Friday, October 14, 2022
I wrote this information on the above post
My study of history revealed the African "Moors" had already been here, in Spain & worldwide, for centuries. That part of history is left out. It was said that upon arrival, Columbus said "They (Blacks) were already here". We know the Indigenous People were already here. I am sharing the type of history I studied about the subject. You might recognized the material I share here from history sources.
The Moors were initially of Berber and Arab descent, though the term was later applied to Africans, Iberian Christian converts to Islam, and people of mixed ancestry. As early as the Middle Ages, “Moors were commonly viewed as being mostly black or very swarthy, and hence the word is often used for negro,” according to the Oxford English Dictionary of African American English.
The Moors were the nomadic inhabitants of the North African continent. They invaded the Iberian peninsula in 711, defeating the Visigoths, and established their rule for almost 800 years. The Moorish empire included most of Spain and Portugal; the Moors attempted to invade France as well.
Who were the Moors and what did they do? Of mixed Arab, Spanish, and Amazigh (Berber) origins, the Moors created the Islamic Andalusian civilization and subsequently settled as refugees in the Maghreb (in the region of North Africa) between the 11th and 17th centuries.
Monday, September 26, 2022
IF I CAN'T HAVE IT ~ YOU CAN'T HAVE IT
Crabs in a Barrel
My expertise in the area of the crab syndrome began as I sat listening at the feet of my great grandparents, grandparents, parents, eight siblings, and a host of extended family. I heard them discuss "crabs in a barrel syndrome", and how one Black would sabotage and discourage another Black when they see someone straddling the barrel ready to escape, the other crabs will reach up and pull someone back down into the barrel. This leads to Blacks constantly being in competition with one another more often than competing with the White successful person.
Some Blacks would prefer to pull another down than to help push another out of the barrel, jeopardizing the success potential of that person, and at the same time not understanding they are endangering their own success, opportunities, social growth, or financial growth – not even to help the success of even a friend --- "if I can't have it - they can't have it”.
Important to know, those who get out of the barrel often won't reach back and try and help someone else get out.
My expertise in this phenomenon has continued as a Black and a woman throughout my life's very diverse evolution. For instance, the Producers of the Bill Cosby Show "You Bet Your Life", had me as a guest on the show because they were intrigued by the fact that I had been the "first Black" thirteen times, in either business, jobs, groups or organizations. I’m writing much of this blog based on the book I wrote for the numerous classes, seminars and trainings I do, entitled "The Only Minority in the Workplace, Group or Organizations", to be re-published for the public, (one of four books) registered with the Writers Guild of America https://www.wga.org A'Dorn Studios http://www.ADORNSTUDIOS.ORG/
Here's How Crab Mentality Works
I stress in my book and classes the fact that Blacks, women, zaftig people, and other minorities, will without exception nor consent, be placed in one of the six categories. That category is usually directly in correlation with their ethnicity.
How do you avoid these "crab hands"
Saturday, December 11, 2021
Wanda Dorn interviews KWANZZAA creator Dr. Maulana Karenga.
Learn the seven principles of how to celebrate the BlackAfrican American holiday.