IF I CAN'T HAVE IT ~ YOU CAN'T HAVE IT
Crabs in a Barrel
My expertise in the area of the crab syndrome began as I sat listening at the feet of my great grandparents, grandparents, parents, eight siblings, and a host of extended family. I heard them discuss "crabs in a barrel syndrome", and how one Black would sabotage and discourage another Black when they see someone straddling the barrel ready to escape, the other crabs will reach up and pull someone back down into the barrel. This leads to Blacks constantly being in competition with one another more often than competing with the White successful person.
Some Blacks would prefer to pull another down than to help push another out of the barrel, jeopardizing the success potential of that person, and at the same time not understanding they are endangering their own success, opportunities, social growth, or financial growth – not even to help the success of even a friend --- "if I can't have it - they can't have it”.
Important to know, those who get out of the barrel often won't reach back and try and help someone else get out.
My expertise in this phenomenon has continued as a Black and a woman throughout my life's very diverse evolution. For instance, the Producers of the Bill Cosby Show "You Bet Your Life", had me as a guest on the show because they were intrigued by the fact that I had been the "first Black" thirteen times, in either business, jobs, groups or organizations. I’m writing much of this blog based on the book I wrote for the numerous classes, seminars and trainings I do, entitled "The Only Minority in the Workplace, Group or Organizations", to be re-published for the public, (one of four books) registered with the Writers Guild of America https://www.wga.org A'Dorn Studios http://www.ADORNSTUDIOS.ORG/
Here's How Crab Mentality Works
I stress in my book and classes the fact that Blacks, women, zaftig people, and other minorities, will without exception nor consent, be placed in one of the six categories. That category is usually directly in correlation with their ethnicity.
How do you avoid these "crab hands"